Online Commentators Support Woman He said in a post now viral She made her 17-year-old niece feel “like a monster”.
Posted in redditForum “Am I The A**hole” (AITA) Under the username u/AcceptableAffect7090, the woman said she lost her 15-year-old daughter last year, and her niece compared that loss to the death of her dog. In response, u/AcceptableAffect7090 “shouted” at her niece. The post garnered more than 8,600 upvotes and hundreds of comments criticizing the teen’s insensitivity.
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Deborah Carr Ph.D., chair of the Department of Sociology at Boston University, my father said That many consider the death of a child “the worst individual stress a person can experience.”
“Parents and parents especially feel responsible for a child’s well-being,” Carr said. “So when they lose a child, they not only lose someone they love. They are also missing out on the promising years they were looking forward to.” .
Several experts also told the publication that grief associated with the loss of a child is often “more intense” than “classical grief.”
“In the first year after losing a child younger than him, a parent is more likely to commit suicide and everything from severe depression to complicated grief,” said Dr. Jill Saltz, MD, a psychiatrist at New York Presbyterian Hospital, Weill Cornell School of Medicine. my father.
Saltz explained that “complex grief” differs from “normal grief” in that “there are more severe symptoms, alternating with seemingly no symptoms – numbness – which are likely to impair their ability to function.”
Some parents “learn to live with loss,” Carr added, while others “struggle to find meaning in life.”
In her post, u/AcceptableAffect7090 said her 15-year-old daughter died in a car accident last year, and although she is undergoing treatment, she cannot bring herself to go to her daughter’s room.
“I couldn’t clean her room or get into her room, so it’s just as it was when she was alive,” she said. “My husband doesn’t go in there either, and we keep the door closed.”
So when their niece came to visit last week, u/AcceptableAffect7090 and her teenage husband made a bed on the couch.
“I asked why she couldn’t sleep in the ‘guest room,’ and I told her we don’t have one,” u/AcceptableAffect7090 wrote. “[My] Her niece said she thought our daughter’s room was the guest room now. I explained that we haven’t been able to change anything yet, and she rolled her eyes and said it was a year ago, and we [needed] to move forward.”
From there, things got worse.
“When I started crying, I tried to apologize, and I think in an effort to communicate, she said she had endured the loss of her dog so hard but got over it within a year, and yelled that my child is not a dog,” u/AcceptableAffect7090 said.
Redditor u/AppreableAffect7090’s husband sent their niece home, and her sister later accused her of being unreasonable.
“[She said] I have made [my] Your niece feels like a monster,” concluded u/AcceptableAffect7090. AITA? “
Redditors said u/AcceptableAffect7090’s reaction was entirely reasonable and criticized her niece’s insensitivity.
“NTA [not the a**hole]. She needed to learn somehow that it is never acceptable to equate the loss of a child with the loss of a pet,” said u/Sweeper1985. “You reacted with sadness, you really can’t be blamed.”
u/nottheblackhat wrote, “She feels like a monster because she acted like a monster. For a 17-year-old to be so cruel and cruel, she needs to face some consequences.”
Redditor u/Bl0ndeFox added: “NTA. 17-year-old should know better… still grieving, and she was acting so rude and insensitive. This might sound mean, but maybe your niece needed to feel that ‘being a monster’ “To wake up a little.”
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